$(function(){
$("#select2").change(function(){
if($(this).val() == "apple") $("#select1").val("pear")
});
});
<select id="select1" >
<option value="apple" selected >Яблоко</option>
<option value="pear" >Груша</option>
</select>
<select id="select2" >
<option value="apple" >Яблоко</option>
<option value="pear" selected >Груша</option>
</select>