Ildarich

const defaultButtonGreen = new ActionRowBuilder()
  .addComponents(
    new ButtonBuilder()
    .setCustomId('defaultButtonGreen')
    .setLabel('green')
    .setStyle(ButtonStyle.Success),
  ),
  defaultButtonRed = new ActionRowBuilder()
  .addComponents(
    new ButtonBuilder()
    .setCustomId('defaultButtonRed')
    .setLabel('red')
    .setStyle(ButtonStyle.Danger),
  );

await interaction.reply({ content: "message", components: [defaultButtonGreen, defaultButtonRed] });
const message = await interaction.fetchReply();

const collector = message.createMessageComponentCollector({
  componentType: ComponentType.Button,
  time: 60000
});

collector.on('collect', async i => {
  if (i.customId === "defaultButtonGreen") {
    defaultButtonGreen.components[0].setStyle(
      defaultButtonGreen.components[0].data.style === 3 ? ButtonStyle.Danger : ButtonStyle.Success
    );

    await i.update({ components: [defaultButtonGreen, defaultButtonRed] })
  } else if (i.customId === "defaultButtonRed") {
    defaultButtonRed.components[0].setStyle(
      defaultButtonRed.components[0].data.style === 4 ? ButtonStyle.Success : ButtonStyle.Danger
    );

    await i.update({ components: [defaultButtonGreen, defaultButtonRed] })
  }
});

по нажатию на одну из двух кнопок, она будет менять цвет на противоположный (красный => зелёный, зелёный => красный).